Searching for the "Full-Option" Product

I never intended to write this blog, I was just intrigued by the concept. But once I started writing, I never intended for my writings to be of a personal nature, I was just going to comment on what I see and what I am interested in. But today, something triggered this need for frankness. I do feel extremely fragile right now...I feel like pouring my heart out, totally opening up, exposing my vulnerability and sensitivity... but somehow the words just aren't coming out right.





More and more these days I am realizing just how we are complicating everything in our lives. Marriage is a great example of this. Many people have reduced the most beautiful relationship in life to a shopping experience; they search for a wife or husband as if they were shopping for a new washing machine or car, dreaming up long lists of qualities that they search for in a spouse. Everyone goes around carrying their lists in their hearts and minds and judge everyone they meet according to them.

The guys want a beautiful, smart, polite, romantic girl who would be a loving wife, great cook, caring mother and kind friend. The girls want a handsome, rich, athletic, strong, smart, romantic guy who will be a caring husband and good father. Even "love chemistry" has been added to the shopping list of qualities. Selection of a spouse then becomes a process of carefully studying how each person's qualities fit their shopping list and weighing up the different options.

I don't want to be someone's option. I want to be someone's one and only, the girl who captures his heart from day one and makes him throw his list away and never think on another girl ever again.